On January 15th many in our community came together around the topic of bullying. We wanted to share the resources and contact information mentioned at this event. All of our panelists are happy to be ongoing resources for you and would welcome your messages.
Green Mountain Public Access TV recorded the event. Once we have that link we will post it here.
One of the common themes throughout the evening was relationship. While strong relationships will not always prevent bullying they do provide opportunity to address bullying. Taking time each day with your children/teens will create a foundation that will allow them to come to you when they need help.
Bullying is a series of traumatic events in the life of an individual. We as helping adults need to address it as trauma. We know that a trusted caring relationship can reverse the negative impacts of trauma.
Heather Hobart shared that it’s not always helpful or appropriate to have the youth that is being bullied face their bully. This is a harmful practice that in many cases causes more trauma. Much restorative work needs to be done before this can be a helpful interaction, and in some cases it is never appropriate. Click here to download the Lamoille Restorative Center handout on restorative practices.
Please contact us if we can help!
Robyn Daley, Children and Youth Field Services Director, LCMHS
Katina Idol, Clinical Coordinator /School Based Clinician Supervisor, LCMHS
Catherine Gallagher, Superintendent, Lamoille North District Schools
Heather Hobart, Executive Director, Lamoille Restorative Center
Ryan Bjerke, Facilities Manager, Craftsbury Academy
Donna Sherlaw, Member of Standing Committee, Parent/Child Rep. Lamoille County with Vermont Federation of
Families for Children’s Mental Health
Jessica Bickford, Coordinator, Healthy Lamoille Valley
These are some of the best resources we found:
(more to be added)
Prevention: Teach kids how to identify bullying and how to stand up to it safely.
National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Tips for building relationships and having difficult relationships with your teens.
Bully No More
A musical that can be done in schools, written in part by Elmore resident, Jon Gailmor. You can listen to the songs, and rent the musical at the TAMS website and at the Bully No More!website www.bullynomoremusical.com. You can also email email@example.com and watch on Youtube.
Circle in the Square: Building Community and Repairing Harm in School
Nancy Riestenberg writes warmly and with long experience about the challenges facing school communities and how restorative measures-specifically Circles-create a safer space for learning and development for all. Published by Living Justice Press.
Time to Think: Using Restorative Questions
Restorative questions are a tool used to process an incident of wrongdoing or conflict. The questions focus on the incident, and allow the person to think about how his/her actions affected others. It encourages empathy, accountability, expression of feelings and thoughts, and problem solving. Restorative questions are also answered by those who were impacted by the incident, to help them process their feelings and determine what they need to make things right. Read more on the International Institute for Restorative Practices (IIRP) website.
Bullying Resource Handouts
A number of handouts for schools and parents to download and print:
What Should Happen When Your Child Reports School-Based Aggression
Parent Action Plan
Bullying and Harassment Resources
What To Do If Your Child Is Being Bullied
9 Steps You Can Take if Your Child Is Being Bullied
Reasons Teens Don’t Tell
What Students and Parents Can Do